Day 28 – 30 Day Challenge

What is your love language?

I have to admit, I had to look this one up. Didn’t even know there was such a thing as “love language,” but you live and learn. After looking over the list and taking the quiz, here is my result:

Words of Affirmation

Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important – hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. Kind, encouraging, and positive words are truly life-giving.


I got the quiz here.

This does fit me, even more so lately. I’ve been trying to eliminate negativity from my life and prefer positive words and actions.

Day 26 – 30 Day Challenge

What popular notion do you think the world has wrong?

There is a huge stigma in the world about the mentally ill. We are not all gun-toting murderers, nor are we all dangerous. The press doesn’t help. Every time there is a shoot-out, the press automatically assumes the shooter has to be mentally ill. This plays on people’s fears and if they hear the words “mentally ill” or “bipolar,” people freak-out. Of course, there are some dangerous mentally ill people and one can only hope that those are being treated, but some fall through the cracks. Some families do not want to admit they have a mentally ill parent or child. All we can do is continue to educate the public and encourage those who are mentally ill to seek help and for families to intervene if they have a dangerous mentally ill family member.

Day 25 – 30 Day Challenge

If you could have dinner with anyone in history, who would it be and what would you eat?

John Lennon, just to hear him speak and maybe sing a tune again. Dinner would consist of a vegetarian display, a butternut squash soup, a lavish salad, roasted root vegetables and a vegetable stir fry and rice. I know at one point John was a vegetarian but he went macrobiotic with Yoko. He loved black pudding, so I would also have some British fares like bangers and puddings, as well as tea and biscuits. I am mostly vegetarian and I think John would be polite enough to eat the vegetarian foods.

Day 24 – small stones

huddled in a blanket,
fingers wrapped around a coffee mug
steam rising across my face
not so much for the drinking as the warmth

I raise my mug to Winter —
“May you linger here this year,
not hurried by Spring as in years passed.”

I long for snow
not ice
Winter, stay and be kind


NOTE: In the winter of 2009, Oklahoma was covered in ice. In the dead of night, with the electricity out, you could hear the cracking of tree limbs all around you. It was such a mournful sound. The next 3 winters were mostly warm with only a few small snow falls. I am from Virginia where we get more snow than ice and I miss the beautiful snow.

Day 24 – 30 Day Challenge

Describe your family dynamic of your childhood vs. your family dynamic now.

I am the middle child so I spent a lot of time negotiating between my brother and sister and between my parents and siblings. I preferred to be alone most of the time and spent a great deal of time away from the family as often as possible. I had a good relationship with my father, but a strained one with my mother. In my family now, which consists of my husband and I, I spend a good deal of time alone in my room, writing and reading online. I prefer my own company and often get agitated at my husband if he interrupts me too often. With my parents and siblings, my mother has passed on, but I still have a good relationship with my dad, brother and sister. I live over a thousand miles away, so I am not bothered by their day to day stuff. This all sounds rather pretentious and selfish, but I am an introvert with bipolar and anxiety disorders. I know my limitations, which do not have a long range. I am best left to my own devices.